Lifestyle

A Danish trial gave 290 first-time-parent couples a structured emotional-intelligence-style relationship course, tracked them for two years, and found their satisfaction declined at the same rate as couples given no training at all

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A Danish maternity ward, starting in the mid-2000s, recruited 290 couples expecting their first child and split them into three groups. One group received a structured relationship-skills course built around the kind of communication and emotion-regulation training often associated with emotional intelligence. A second group received written information only. A third received whatever care came […]

Business

A Danish colleague’s blunt, unsoftened feedback and a French colleague’s carefully cushioned criticism can carry the exact same message, a distinction cross-cultural researcher Erin Meyer traces back to a 1976 framework separating low-context from high-context communication styles

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A Dane telling a colleague their proposal has problems, plainly and without softening, is not being rude by the standard they grew up with. The same sentence, delivered the same way to a colleague from a culture with different communication norms, can land as a genuine insult. Neither person is wrong about what politeness requires. […]

Culture

Researchers who asked baby boomers what frustrates them most about younger generations at work found the answer had less to do with effort than with a single unspoken value that quietly shifted between the generations.

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Ask an older colleague to describe the problem with younger workers and you’ll usually get some version of “they don’t want to work.” It’s a tidy story, and the numbers seem to back the mood: in one recent survey, 46 percent of workers named baby boomers as having the strongest work ethic, while only 9 […]

Advice

Psychology says that the moment you become known as the strong one, the reliable one, the person who always shows up, people quietly stop asking how you’re doing. And most givers don’t notice the shift until they’re already running on empty.

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There’s a particular text message I know very well. It’s the one that starts with “Sorry to bother you, but…” and ends with someone needing something. Advice, a favour, a shoulder, a plan. For years, I was proud to be the person who received those messages. I was the friend who remembered everyone’s appointments, the […]

Culture

The idea that introverts are simply cleverer does not hold up, but a large study found something subtler: the more intelligent people are, the less a busy social life seems to add to their happiness, and for the brightest it may even subtract from it

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The intelligent introvert is one of our favourite characters: the quiet one in the corner who says little because they are thinking deeper thoughts than the rest of the room. It is a flattering image, especially if you are the quiet one. The question is whether the science behind it holds up. Mostly it does […]

Culture

We treat the person who talks most in the room as the most capable, but research on the babble effect finds that talking more makes people seem like leaders regardless of the quality of what they say, leaving quieter people underrated

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Watch any meeting and you can usually feel who is being taken seriously. It is the person doing most of the talking. The quiet ones, whatever is going on behind their faces, tend to be quietly filed as having less to offer, less confidence, perhaps less to say. The research suggests that read is unreliable, […]

Culture

The Atacama Desert is so dry that parts receive less than two millimetres of rain a year, and its salty, oxidising soils have become one of Earth’s closest working analogues for Mars

The Atacama Desert in northern Chile has weather stations that have recorded no measurable rainfall since instruments were installed, and soil samples pulled from its core more closely resemble Martian regolith than anything else on Earth

In parts of northern Chile’s Atacama Desert, weather stations have logged no measurable rainfall since they were installed. The soil there is chemically closer to Martian regolith than to anything else on Earth — and space agencies use it to rehearse for Mars.

Lifestyle

Psychology says the first thing that goes in retirement isn’t purpose — it’s the small daily proof that you were expected somewhere, and almost nothing in ordinary life replaces being expected

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In the 1930s, in a small Austrian town where the only factory had closed, researchers noticed something strange about how the unemployed men crossed the main square. They walked slower. They stopped more often, mid-errand, for no reason. Many had stopped wearing watches, and when asked what they’d done all day, they genuinely couldn’t say […]

Lifestyle

Psychology says people who genuinely don’t care what others think aren’t rude or selfish — they’ve reached a level of inner peace that comes from finally valuing their own judgment over external validation

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Here’s the first thing to know about people who genuinely don’t care what others think: they never announce it. The ones who announce it — loudly, often, with a little edge — are usually the opposite. “I don’t care what anyone thinks!” is a sentence that only gets said to an audience, for effect, by […]

Lifestyle

Psychology says the loneliest people in life aren’t the ones nobody likes — they’re the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient

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Run a quick thought experiment on your own circle. Think of the person whose name comes up when anyone asks, who would you call if things fell apart? Everyone has one — the steady one, the helper, the one who always picks up. Now ask the follow-up question, the one nobody asks: who does that […]

Lifestyle

We are far worse at predicting our own happiness than we assume: studies find that big wins and big losses alike fade towards a personal baseline, and we routinely overestimate how much, and for how long, the next good thing will lift us

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Most of us walk around with a fairly confident theory of our own happiness. If I get the job, the house, the relationship, the money, then I will be happier, and I will stay that way. We organise a great deal of our lives around that theory. Two of the sturdier findings in psychology suggest […]